To use tabs, please use full web version. I believe the goal of parenting is to give my children the skills to become self-sufficient physically, socially, and spiritually. As I try a new technique I ask myself, is this teaching my child how to make good choices? Is she learning to ask God what the correct choice is? My goal is that my girls will be able to fully function as God's servants and become strong leaders for positive change.
Sunday, March 7, 2010
My kid is driving me crazy!
Do you feel your blood boil and you want to drop-kick your child to the next block when he does something wrong? Ya, we've all been there, but is there a calm way to deal with their behavior? Yes, you can have a canned response and you can even delay the consequence if it is over your head!
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I have learned that if I have a canned response, I’m not trying to think while in a state of insanity. I say, “bummer,” or “how sad, you made a bad choice,” in a sad tone. That way I can give the consequence in a calm way. It puts the stress on the child instead of the parent. You may want to display your canned response around the house if you can’t remember. The consequence may be the usual time-out, but if it is more extreme, I am allowed to say, “I don’t know what the consequence will be right now.” Wow! That takes so much of the frustration and pressure off me! When thinking of a consequence I try to identify the core issue. Is my child wasting my time, resources, dishonest, etc? Then I give a consequence that directly relates to the core issue. It may be that my child has to make up the wasted time by doing one of my chores. If I can’t trust them, I may give stricter rules. Let the punishment fit the crime. I find that to be the hardest part, but allowing time to think takes the pressure off.
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