Love and Logic Summary

Here are the basic principals (by Jim and Charles Fay) as I understand them

Teacher Chart

So far these are the steps I see for effective teaching. As a school teacher, I had a lot of teaching moments. I just started doing the first step and it helps with my stubborn family members.

Humble Spouse

My husband decided to teach me to pour honey on my toast. Of course I feel confident that I don't need help but my pride turned into anger and I told him he just pointed out my stupidity. I want to try being more humble by saying "That is a good way, but I don't have the energy to learn something new right now. Sorry." Now I've come up with a chart for how I could choose to take his advice and a seperate chart for how to nicely tell him the way he is suggesting will not work for me.

Conflict Resolution

When my kids are upset I have them express their feelings and get it all out before trying to solve the problem. Next they have to calm down. They can't use reason until they are calm. By the time they're calm, the solution is easy: just trade or take turns at this toddler age.

As an adult I have trouble dealing with disagreements, so I try to validate their feelings first before looking for a solution. Draw the line is a new concept on my chart, but it's the same as an enforcable statement in Love and Logic. You state what you will do and when.

Potty Training

Wow! We are so excited! Yesterday our 2 year old went potty in the morning before she came downstairs. It was the first time without help! Later she pooped in the potty without help at naptime! We took a picture of her standing next to the potty. My sister has a daughter the same age and mentioned her daughter goes in her diaper before she wakes up. I just have my girl sit on the potty every morning whether she needs to go or not. When she takes her diaper off around the house we sing a song to the tune "London Bridges" and the words "Take your diaper off in the bathroom, in the bathroom...Little Girl." Potty training is a slow step-by-step process in which she has to learn to go on command, pull off the right amount of toilet paper, flush, pull up pants. Just stopping peeing in the diaper and finishing in the potty is a great step!

Sharing

When learning to share I started with a 2 1/2 year old and an infant by telling the older one to say, "No, no sweety," and gently take the object away when baby grabbed her stuff.  Now that they are 4 and 2 I have a new jingle to the melody, "Michael Finnigan." The words are: "Trade, take turns, then ask Mommy, trade, take turns, then ask Mommy...This is how we share!" We have seen the picture, discussed it, and practiced it, but they still need help taking turns. The older one knows how to look for something to trade, but counting to 10 while waiting to take turns is still too difficult for them without help. I actually want them to learn to go to an adult for help when they can't solve it themselves. Otherwise one of them gets hurt. How do you teach your children to share?